When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
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Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important:
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …
Attachment Needs
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This cycle is frustrating and usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can identify it in …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness. In it you will learn: My gift to you, Love, Jen
Understanding Attachment Wounding: Healing Unhelpful Relationship Patterns
As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of the overwhelming fear of being abandoned. However, it’s important to recognize the …
IFS and Attachment Theory
Have you ever wondered why you react to certain situations or relationships in a specific way? Are you curious about the intricate workings of your mind and how it shapes your experiences? Today, I want to dive into two fascinating …