We don’t live within our Window of Tolerance all the time. When we’re inside the window, we feel grounded, present, and able to respond flexibly to what life throws at us. But when stress builds, we can tip into hyperarousal …
Category: Psychotherapy
Are You Betraying Yourself in Small Ways Every Day?
Little self-betrayals add up. Saying yes when you mean no. Pushing down your real needs. Forgetting to check in with yourself. We often think self-betrayal is only about the big moments. But it’s in the small choices where the patterns …
Feeling Stuck? Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Can’t Let Go
You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
How to Reconnect With Your Needs
When your needs have been ignored or dismissed, it can feel almost impossible to trust them. But you can gently rebuild that connection. 1. Pause and Notice When you feel discomfort, pause and ask: “What am I needing right now?” …
How to Have a Conversation with Someone You Are Worried About
If you’re worried about someone and want to start a conversation, here is a simple pocket guide for how to have that conversation. What NOT to Do If you are considering suicide, or you know someone who is, please reach …
A Suicide Attempt Is Not ‘Attention Seeking’ — It Is Always a Cry for Help
“A suicide attempt is not ‘attention seeking behaviour’, it is ALWAYS a cry for help.” – Jennifer Nurick It can feel confronting to sit with someone who is feeling suicidal. We are holding their pain while also managing our own …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …
Suicide Warning Signs: What to Look For and How to Help
If you’re worried someone might be thinking about ending their life, you cannot afford to ignore the signs. Warning signs matter. Knowing what to look for and reaching out when you are concerned can save a life. Many people believe …
Understanding Suicide: The Urge Can Pass
This week, I read something that stopped me in my tracks. Twenty-nine people who survived jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge all said the same thing. The moment they jumped, they regretted it. In another study, Dr. Freedenthal found that …
Suicide in Australia: Why We Need to Keep Talking About It
Trigger warning. Over the next few days, I’ll be talking openly about suicide. Looking at the statistics is confronting. If suicide rates are any measure of how we’re doing as a community when it comes to mental health, we have …