Your brain doesn’t learn that you’re capable because you tell yourself you are. It learns because you do hard things, survive them, and slowly begin to trust yourself. That’s how confidence is built. Confidence isn’t something you think your way …
Category: Personal Reflections
The Courage to Stay When Everything Feels Unfamiliar
At 12 years old, I left my school on a council estate in England to attend a private school on a scholarship. I remember feeling completely out of place. The girls seemed to come from a different world — they …
Worrying Is the Worst Way to Use Your Imagination
Today someone said, “Worrying is the worst way to use your imagination,” and that’s easily the best thing I’ve heard all week. Like most people, I have a part that worries. Worries about my kids, my work, the world… Sometimes …
Sometimes Healing Is Helping a Younger Part Realise the Danger Has Passed
Today I had a strong somatic reaction that I couldn’t immediately make sense of. My heart was racing.My chest felt hot and tight.And although I knew I was activated, I didn’t understand why. The feeling stayed with me for about …
Healing Isn’t Always Dramatic
Healing isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes it’s just noticing… you don’t react the way you used to. The thing that once ruined your whole day now passes through you more gently. You pause before responding. You soothe yourself faster. You stop …
A Heart Full of Joy: Reflections from Our Path of Light Retreat in India
I’m sitting in the airport in Bangalore waiting for my flight to Sydney with a heart full of joy. I have so much gratitude to all the staff, Indian people and the land of India itself. In very few places …
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Therapy
Therapy can be expensive. But I have always seen it as a vital part of self-care. At different times in my life, I have gone without other things in order to prioritise my mental health, and it has always been …
Spiritual Awakening Can Feel Surprisingly Lonely
Spiritual awakening can feel…surprisingly lonely. You start to see things differently. Feel more. Notice more. And suddenly…the conversations around you don’t quite land the same. You try to explain what you’re experiencing… but it feels like people don’t really get …
Tell Them What’s Working
We’re often trained to scan for what isn’t working. To spot the mistake. The flaw. The thing that needs improving. It’s how many of us were raised. It’s how schools assess. It’s how workplaces review. It’s even how our nervous …
Small Acts of Kindness Regulate More Than You Realise
Small acts of goodness regulate more than you realise. They remind your body and others that safety still exists in human connection. It might be helping someone with their shopping, pausing to hold a door open for someone, picking up …