Sometimes the strongest emotional reactions aren’t coming from your adult self. They’re coming from a part of you that was formed before you even had words. A preverbal part. Preverbal parts are formed before we have language. They don’t communicate …
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What to Do When You Can’t Afford Therapy
Therapy can be expensive. But I have always seen it as a vital part of self-care. At different times in my life, I have gone without other things in order to prioritise my mental health, and it has always been …
Tell Them What’s Working
We’re often trained to scan for what isn’t working. To spot the mistake. The flaw. The thing that needs improving. It’s how many of us were raised. It’s how schools assess. It’s how workplaces review. It’s even how our nervous …
Sometimes We Don’t Need Advice — We Just Need to Be Heard
“Advice can often leave me feeling worse, even if it is well-intentioned. I just want to be heard and feel understood, even if it doesn’t make sense to the other person.” “Sometimes what helps most isn’t advice — it’s someone …
Why Lies of Omission Can Hurt Just as Much as Direct Deception
Sometimes betrayal isn’t about what was said — it’s about what was left unsaid. When someone withholds information that matters to you, they’re making a decision on your behalf without your consent. That can leave you feeling blindsided, powerless, and …
The Real Test of Spiritual Evolution
“It’s easy to appear spiritually evolved while drinking Ayahuasca or reciting scriptures. The real test is who you are in traffic, when you come across someone with an opposing view, or when your food’s late.” — Vex King Spirituality is …
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
When I Ask How You’re Doing, I Always Want the Long Version
When I ask how you’re doing, I always want the long version. In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes. But that’s exactly what I want. Therapy is the place for the unfiltered …
Advocating for Yourself During Medical Procedures
It’s okay to: Remember: You are allowed to take the time you need to give your full consent. Your dentist, doctor, gynaecologist, and surgeon are there to support you. Yes, they are more knowledgeable than you in many areas, but …