Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
We’ve all had moments where we’ve let ourselves down. Times when we silenced our inner knowing, went against our values, or ignored what our body was trying to tell us. What often follows is self-judgment. But underneath that judgment is …
Gratitude has roots in grace.The word comes from the Latin gratia—linked to kindness, beauty, and giving. And when I connect with gratitude, I feel that beauty on the inside. I soften. I become gentler with myself and with others. Gratitude …
I had an experience a month ago where I was feeling quite overwhelmed. I went for a walk in the bush and found that although I was in nature, my mind kept drifting back to the source of the anxiety. …
We’ve all been there—that place where we feel completely depleted. Nothing left to give to ourselves, let alone anyone else. Burnt out. Emotionally exhausted. When I reach that point, I’ve learned to pay close attention. It’s not just a bad …
I just loved this conversation with Clare about her incredible new book. I’ve personally had the most amazing experience in EFT couple therapy with my husband of 19 years. In this episode, I talk about an attachment injury that we …
So many of us grew up learning that love had to be earned by being “good,” quiet, helpful, or invisible.But true validation says: Have you ever experienced the healing power of being truly seen?
As a therapist, I feel your wins. Whether it’s setting a boundary, pausing to feel somthing big that you might have glossed over, or just getting through a hard day. So proud of every quiet, powerful step you’re taking. Love, …
