I have found the most powerful and lasting change for my clients comes from an integration of both psychotherapy and energetic healing, a holistic approach that works with the mind, the subconscious and the energy body.
No Bad Parts – Everything you need to know about Internal Family Systems (IFS)
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
”Outside-In” Referencing for the Anxiously Attached
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
The 5 Stages of a relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
6 Best Trauma Books From A Licensed Therapist
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
On Your Side
Of course, there are times to argue, stand your ground and debate, but when something is really important to your partner, sometimes you need to have their back.
What I Learnt From Fasting
Two flights and 22 hours later, I’m back in my spiritual home, India. When I come to India, I come to a large Temple complex where people practise mantra and pooja for about 19 hours daily. Today, I fasted for …
What’s Important to Your Partner
Know what is important to your partner and make it important to you, too.I’m not talking about what kind of food they like, I’m talking about the big things, the things that your partner feels passionate about.If they feel passionate …
Marriage Tips from a Happily Married Couple (18 years) with Two Teenage Children
Which one resonates the most for you, 1-8? Let me know in the comments Love, Jen
Corrective Experiences
Whenever I make a mistake, and my husband responds with kind eyes and a soft, warm voice, he gives me a corrective experience. Let me explain. When I was born, my father was 52 years old. He was old enough …
Shape-Shifting
When we people-please, it is often the younger parts of us that are afraid of being rejected or hurt that take over.
Safe In a Relationship
When you don’t feel safe, the usual thing to do is to adapt your behaviour to create the most safety possible. This is when we people-please and shape-shift for approval or to keep the peace. When this happens, the need …
A Conscious Relationship
This is how a relationship can become conscious; through love, support, understanding, compassion, communication and trust.
How to Create Distance In A Family Relationship
It’s okay to need more space in a family relationship. Let me say it again – It’s okay to need more space in a relationship. When you have grown up taking care of others emotionally or being afraid of their …