Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
One of the biggest myths about healing is that you have to remember what happened. You don’t. Some of our deepest wounds were formed before we had language. Before we could tell a story or make sense of our experiences. …
Today I had a strong somatic reaction that I couldn’t immediately make sense of. My heart was racing.My chest felt hot and tight.And although I knew I was activated, I didn’t understand why. The feeling stayed with me for about …
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.” The truth is… many emotionally distant people feel a lot. They just don’t show it. Some …
One of the most common parts I meet in therapy is the angry teenager. And often, people can’t stand that part and feel ashamed of it. They tell me: “I don’t like this part.”“It’s mean.”“It’s reactive.”“It’s not who I want …
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t force vulnerability. Many avoidant people grew up learning that depending on others felt unsafe, disappointing, overwhelming, …
The most powerful words in therapy are often: “That makes sense.” Not because what happened was okay. Not because the behaviour should continue. But because when you understand why you feel, react, protect, withdraw, people-please, or overthink… You stop fighting …
The version of you that shuts down in relationships… probably learned that closeness wasn’t always safe. Some people don’t get louder when they feel unsafe. They get quieter. They stop texting back. Need space. Feel overwhelmed. Disconnect emotionally. Or suddenly …
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.” The truth is… many emotionally distant people feel a lot. They just don’t show it. Some …
Many avoidantly attached people are highly productive. They’re often the ones who stay late, take on extra responsibility, and rarely stop moving. But sometimes work isn’t just about ambition. Sometimes it’s a way of coping. For many avoidant people, work …
The version of you that shuts down in relationships… probably learned that closeness wasn’t always safe. Some people don’t get louder when they feel unsafe. They get quieter. They stop texting back. Need space. Feel overwhelmed. Disconnect emotionally. Or suddenly …