If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment.
love Jen x
P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out Feb 2024 “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” where I provide a detailed healing pathway for working with the anxious adaption.
Brown, D. P., and D. S. Elliott. 2016. Attachment disturbances in adults: Treatment for comprehensive repair. New York: Norton.