Like many of us, I was raised to fear conflict or avoid it altogether. It took me years to learn and embody that conflict is an opportunity for connection, growth, and healing. It’s not about never arguing—it’s about how you …
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Conflict Doesn’t Have to Mean Crisis
Secure couples know how to repair and come back. They don’t get it right all the time, but they keep working on it and learning about themselves and each other through the process. Be gentle with each other. Love, Jen
Most Relationship Conflict Is Really About Differing Values
Ever notice how you keep having the same argument with your partner? Different situation, same theme—on repeat. Let’s take a classic example: money.Maybe you’re the saver and your partner’s the spender. When they make a big purchase, you feel frustrated—maybe …
Why You Apologize Even When It’s Not Your Fault
Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens. Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments. Love, Jen
Why You Feel So Anxious After a Fight
This is where therapy can be life-changing.Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens.Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments.Love, Jen
Being in the Discomfort of a Conflict is Incredibly Difficult for the Anxiously Attached.
When a conflict occurs, most people with an anxious attachment style try to repair the conflict as quickly as possible to regain closeness. The problem is that it can be difficult to maintain boundaries when you let things slide to …
Apology in the Family
“As a therapist, I’ve noticed that people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and just let time pass often carry that experience into adulthood in unexpected ways. When conflict is ignored instead of addressed, it …
Why Self-Awareness is Useful
Research has proven the benefits of self-awareness. It has been linked to performance at work and is one of the strongest predictors of personal and organisational success and satisfaction. Dr Tasha Eurich has conducted extensive research into self-awareness. She says …
Conflict and Connection
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …