This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.” I haven’t felt this part of me for ages, so it came as a surprise. I …
Tag: TraumaHealing
Suicide Warning Signs: What to Look For and How to Help
If you’re worried someone might be thinking about ending their life, you cannot afford to ignore the signs. Warning signs matter. Knowing what to look for and reaching out when you are concerned can save a life. Many people believe …
Understanding Suicide: The Urge Can Pass
This week, I read something that stopped me in my tracks. Twenty-nine people who survived jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge all said the same thing. The moment they jumped, they regretted it. In another study, Dr. Freedenthal found that …
When Your Pain Feels “Too Much” for Others
Have you ever been in so much pain that you wanted to reach out… but stopped yourself? Because you didn’t want to be “too much,” or felt like a burden to the people you love? This is such a lonely …
Infidelity Indecision: When Your Heart and Mind Are at War
Discovering a betrayal can leave you spinning in a storm of uncertainty. One moment you’re furious and ready to leave. The next, you’re longing for the connection you once had. This is infidelity indecision — the painful space where your …
Couples Can Heal After Betrayal: What the Research Shows
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is considered the gold standard for healing attachment injuries — the deep breaks in trust and connection that betrayals create. EFT research consistently shows that 70–75% of couples who complete therapy move from distress to secure …
Repairing Betrayal: How Couples Can Rebuild Trust and Heal Together
The path to repair is tender and complex — but it is possible with commitment from both partners. The first step is acknowledging the wound. The hurt partner needs their pain to be seen, validated, and cared for. Without this, …
Healing After Betrayal: Reclaiming Yourself When a Partner Has Cheated
When you discover a partner has cheated, it can feel like the ground has been pulled out from under you. Betrayal shakes your sense of safety, your self-worth, and your trust in the world. If you’ve chosen to leave the …
Why Discovering Your Partner Cheated Is a Trauma
Discovering that a partner has cheated is a trauma. Even if there was no physical harm, your entire sense of safety and reality is shaken. What you believed to be true — about your relationship, your partner, and even yourself …
Triggers Aren’t Always Loud — Understanding How Trauma Lives in the Body
Triggers are not always loud or obvious. Sometimes, they’re quiet. Subtle. Unexpected.A smell, a song, a comment.A date on the calendar.A certain look or tone of voice. Suddenly, your heart races. Your stomach tightens.You feel overwhelmed — and maybe even …