The universe is never late, just precise. What’s taking time is often taking shape. You can be in-between and still be in purpose. Not all movement is forward — some of it is inward. Holding out for what’s true is …
Tag: TraumaHealing
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
A Father’s Day Reflection: To The Men Who Show Up
A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask you something… did their trauma give them the right to create new trauma inside you?” And …
When You Realise You’re Not Reacting to Your Partner — You’re Reacting to Your Childhood
There is a moment in therapy that changes everything. It is the moment you realise that the reaction you are having right now is not really about your partner. It feels like it is. It looks like it is. But …
“Do You Love Me?” — When an Old Part of You Is Speaking
When you find yourself asking your partner again and again, “Do you love me?”, it’s not about being clingy or dramatic. Often, it’s an old part of you speaking. A younger part that once lived in uncertainty. A child who …
When Three Triggers in 24 Hours Brought My Six-Year-Old Self Forward
This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.” I haven’t felt this part of me for ages, so it came as a surprise. I …
Suicide Warning Signs: What to Look For and How to Help
If you’re worried someone might be thinking about ending their life, you cannot afford to ignore the signs. Warning signs matter. Knowing what to look for and reaching out when you are concerned can save a life. Many people believe …
Understanding Suicide: The Urge Can Pass
This week, I read something that stopped me in my tracks. Twenty-nine people who survived jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge all said the same thing. The moment they jumped, they regretted it. In another study, Dr. Freedenthal found that …
When Your Pain Feels “Too Much” for Others
Have you ever been in so much pain that you wanted to reach out… but stopped yourself? Because you didn’t want to be “too much,” or felt like a burden to the people you love? This is such a lonely …