These archetypes come from the research of Dr. Tasha Eurich (2019). She has a fabulous TEDx talk called ‘Increase your Self-Awareness with One Simple Fix’. She says that 95% of people believe they are self-aware, but only 10% — …
Category: Relationships
Blocks To Self-Awareness
True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and/or feel unable to change. Sometimes, self-awareness can feel like a punishing party. This is why I am a huge advocate for …
What is Self-Awareness?
Dr. Tasha Eurich (2019) in her research, differentiates between internal and external self-awareness. Internal self-awareness can be cultivated through: While gathering external data we have to bear in mind that the other person is seeing you through their own …
Parts That Block Listening
As the listener, you must first notice the part of you formulating your response. This part is likely to be a protector in your system. This part is probably trying to protect you in some way. It might be protecting …
Brené Brown Quote
We meet vulnerability every time we do something new. How much vulnerability did you feel today? That’s how courageous you are! Big love, Jen
Before You Apologise Do This…
Before apologising, ask the other person to share the IMPACT it has had on them. Life changing. Love, Jen (Inspired by a lecture given at IFS Level 1 training by Emma Diamond – Australia)
How Was Repair Done In Your Family?
Rupture and repair were not done well in my family. When I look at my grandparents, it’s easy to see why. We tend to repeat what we learn. As an adult, I had to learn to have difficult conversations and …
6 Signs You Might Need Couple Therapy
If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy might be the next step to rebuilding or strengthening your bond. Don’t wait for a crisis—reaching out for help is a sign of strength! P.s. If you would like to do some …
To Be Let In
Being let into someone’s internal world allows them to trust you with their more vulnerable parts. When you can share your internal world with one another, you feel more connected and have a sense of being known, understood, and accepted …
Help…We Both Have Traumatic Childhoods!
Coming from a CPTSD background does not mean your relationship is doomed. I would highly recommend working with a therapist to support you as you move into deeper intimacy and help you structure secure attachment bonds. A wonderful modality to …