Have you ever heard the phrase – ‘breakdown to breakthrough?’ We often talk about the pain of trauma and a breakdown, but not enough about what can emerge on the other side, a breakthrough. 🌱 Post-Traumatic Growth is about what …
Category: Relationships
TRAUMA Processing and SECURE ATTACHMENT with a Therapist
Therapy offers a unique opportunity to foster inner secure attachment, especially for those who didn't experience it growing up. Through a supportive, trusting environment, individuals can explore and heal from trauma, creating a nurturing relationship with themselves. This transformative process …
Secure Relationships and Conflict
Like many of us, I was raised to fear conflict or avoid it altogether. It took me years to learn and embody that conflict is an opportunity for connection, growth, and healing. It’s not about never arguing—it’s about how you …
Secure Attachment is Built in Small, Repeated Moments
It’s not the grand gestures. It’s the everyday moments. Secure attachment is built in the small things—how we listen, how we respond, how we repair. It’s a felt sense of emotional safety.Of being seen, heard, and cared for.And offering that …
The Three Steps to Communicating a Need
Communicating your needs is part of secure attachment. If you want to hear more about this 🎧 listen to the full episode to explore what secure attachment looks, feels, and sounds like—and why it matters. YouTube: Spotify: Love, Jen
Aiming for Secure Attachment
If you didn’t grow up with secure attachment, it can feel like chasing something that you don’t have a clear idea of. So, let’s make it real. This is the felt sense of secure attachment. It’s calm. It’s steady. And …
What Secure Attachment Feels Like
In a secure relationship, your nervous system’s resting place is in the ventral vagal state—a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with social engagement, safety, and calmness. The goal isn’t to stay in this state all the time. It’s …
What is an Attachment Injury
An attachment injury happens when the person you rely on most—your partner, parent, or caregiver—fails to respond in a moment of deep need. These moments leave emotional bruises that say: “I can’t trust you to be there for me.” …
Connection and Trauma
When we’ve experienced trauma, it’s common to want to pull away. To feel shame. To think, “I should be over this by now,” or “What’s wrong with me?” Confusion, anger, and self-judgment often follow—and all of that is completely normal.But …
When You’ve Been Hurt, Think About This
When we’ve been hurt, lashing out can feel justified. It’s a natural response to pain. But if we stay in punishment mode, we risk doing more damage to the relationship. The real challenge for the hurt partner is this: Do …