So many people ask me, “How do I become more assertive?” Being assertive involves facing your fears—whether it’s the fear of rejection, being laughed at, or dismissed. Remember, the more assertive you become, the less resentful you will feel. It’s …
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Signs Therapy Could Be Useful
It is time to end the stigma of mental health and get support when you need it. You deserve to be supported wherever you are at. As humans, we are social creatures. We were never meant to have it all …
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Reasons why we might avoid being assertive
There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) and ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be …
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Words Used to Shame and Prevent Assertiveness:
A sure way to stop people from being assertive is to shame them. As Brene Brown talks about so wonderfully in her book ‘Daring Greatly’, shame is pervasive in our culture. It limits innovation, authentic self-expression and stops us from …
![MAKING YOUR WAY FROM PASSIVE TO ASSERTIVE As we learn to become more assertive it is normal to Feel unsure if your needs are valid and how you will be received by others. Its normal to Feel scared about finding the right words and worry that you might appear bossy, you might be scared of losing the relationship. You might Experience changes in your relationships. It can be frightening. Read the caption for some tips on the journey from passive to assertive.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/08_09_2022_WEB-TILE_-MAKING-YOUR-WAY-FROM-PASSIVE-TO-ASSERTIVE-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Making Your way From Passive to Assertive
Being assertive is NOT being bossy or selfish. Being assertive is knowing what you need for self-care and being able to create effective boundaries. It is having the confidence to speak up in the face of injustice. The world needs …
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Advantages of Assertiveness
Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space for the other person. When we are assertive, we tend to experience less anxiety and depression because we can stand …
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Barriers to Being Assertive
There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be upset’ first. …
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Why do you Avoid Being Assertive?
There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) and ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be …