Childhood trauma is often misunderstood. It’s not just about big, obvious events—it’s also about other ways you may not have felt safe or valued. For example, growing up in an environment where you had to suppress your feelings to …
Category: Wellness
Understanding Childhood Trauma
Childhood trauma isn’t just about “big events.” It can be subtle, like being emotionally ignored or having to grow up too quickly. Trauma isn’t the event itself—it’s how your body and mind process it and the support you have around …
10 Things to be Proud of Yourself for
A little reminder for today. Notice just one thing you are proud of about yourself. Give yourself a metaphorical pat on the back. Hold on to it all day. You got this. Love, Jen
Your Word For 2025
Rather than setting specific goals for the year, I prefer to align with a value or energy. Sometimes, this energy is lacking, and I would like more. Other times, the word jumps off the page, and I’m unsure how that …
EMDR and Trauma
Have you had a big traumatic thing happen, and you seem to move through it well, and then something small happens, and it seems to get stuck? A few things could be going on: Has anyone else had this experience? …
What’s Not Co-Regulation
Understanding what co-regulation IS and ISN’T can transform your relationships! It’s not about mirroring someone’s panic or distress—it’s about maintaining calm and helping others find their way back to a place of peace. In Chapter 6 of my book ‘Heal …
How To Decrease Hyperarousal
Feeling hyperaroused can mean being overwhelmed with energy, manifesting as anxiety, panic, or the urge to flee—classic signs of your body kicking into fight or flight mode. This state makes relaxation challenging, affecting sleep and digestion. 💡 Here’s a tip …
Signs of Hyperarousal
Most of the time, our lives unfold within a safe range of arousal—a state where we can function well, regulate our emotions, feel grounded, and stay mentally present. As we encounter daily challenges, our arousal levels fluctuate, sometimes feeling like …
Expanding Your Window of Tolerance
With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
Explaining the Window of Tolerance
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …