Little self-betrayals add up. Saying yes when you mean no. Pushing down your real needs. Forgetting to check in with yourself. We often think self-betrayal is only about the big moments. But it’s in the small choices where the patterns …
Category: Wellness
Feeling Stuck? Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Can’t Let Go
You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
Why Nervous System Regulation Is a Practice, Not Just a Tool
You know the signs. Tight chest. Racing thoughts. A sense that everything is too much. You try the breathing exercises. The affirmations. You know what’s supposed to help… but nothing seems to land when you need it most. Because nervous …
What is “Parts Work”?
Ever wonder why you react the way you do? “Parts Work” explores the different facets of your personality. Learn how understanding these internal “parts” can lead to profound healing and self-acceptance. Discover how to transform triggers into opportunities for growth. …
Every Healthy Choice
Self-love isn’t just about how you feel about yourself, it’s also what you do for yourself. It’s about what you choose. ✨ Saying no to temporary comfort…Because you’re saying yes to your long-term wellbeing. It’s not always pretty.It’s not always …
Conflict Doesn’t Have to Mean Crisis
Secure couples know how to repair and come back. They don’t get it right all the time, but they keep working on it and learning about themselves and each other through the process. Be gentle with each other. Love, Jen
What Secure Attachment Feels Like
In a secure relationship, your nervous system’s resting place is in the ventral vagal state—a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with social engagement, safety, and calmness. The goal isn’t to stay in this state all the time. It’s …
Integrating Traumatic Experiences
When we experience trauma, our thoughts, emotions, and body can feel fragmented—like they’re speaking different languages. We might notice flashbacks, racing thoughts, numbness, dissociation, or a pounding heart. These reactions come from different parts of the brain: Neocortex = thoughtMammalian …
A Bottom-Up Approach to Trauma
Top-Down vs Bottom-Up Healing When it comes to trauma therapy, the order matters. A top-down approach starts with the thinking brain (neocortex). Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a good example—reframing thoughts to shift behaviour. But here’s the challenge: when you’re …
When to Seek Help for Trauma
Trauma can feel like a crack in your energy system—sometimes it heals naturally, and sometimes it doesn’t. When symptoms persist or worsen after a month, it’s time to seek support. Flashbacks, numbness, anxiety, anger, and self-medicating are all signs your …