I raised my children on the other side of the world from my parents. It wasn’t something I planned; I married someone from another country. Yes, my kids missed out on having my parents in the same city, but they …
Category: Parenting
The Emotionally Attuned Parent
Many of us didn’t grow up with emotionally attuned parents. We were told to stop crying. That we were overreacting. That our fear, pain, or sadness wasn’t real enough to matter. So we learned to shut down. To doubt our …
Apology in the Family
“As a therapist, I’ve noticed that people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and just let time pass often carry that experience into adulthood in unexpected ways. When conflict is ignored instead of addressed, it …
The Most Effective Parenting Strategy
The key here is to be with your child without asking them to do anything or respond to anything. You are offering them the most precious thing you have—your presence and your attention.
Ariel’s Birthday
She came four weeks early on her grandmother’s 60th birthday. I remember watching her sleep in the special care nursery. She looked like a porcelain doll with no eyebrows or eyelashes. She was so beautiful and perfect in every way.That …
Filtering The World
“Part of mothering seems to be filtering the world so it’s bearable, taking in toxins and pumping out oxygen like a tree.” - Anna Funder (Wifedom).
What Is Reparenting?
Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we were raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
12 Signs You Have a Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about …