Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxious when we become vulnerable because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. Let …
Tag: Anxiety
What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?
Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …
Unmasking Attachment Anxiety
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
International Day of Yoga
The theory is that trauma-informed yoga practice assists traumatised people by helping them re-establish contact with their bodies, connect to their sensory experiences, and increase their emotional awareness. This has absolutely been my experience with yoga. Yoga has helped me …
What is a Dis-Order? Through a trauma-informed lens.
I have been considering the word ‘dis-order’ when referring to anxiety. Anxiety makes sense when our nervous system has gone into fight or flight (sympathetic activation) when we have to do something scary or have just had a fright. It …
Anxiety or Anxiety Disorder?
You might not know there is a big difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Most of us will experience anxiety on and off, but how do you know when anxiety has become a real problem for you? Anxiety is …
The Physical Symptoms Of Anxiety
If you have suffered from anxiety, you will know that anxiety is NOT only in your head. You might feel worried or nervous about mundane events and find it interferes with your day-to-day life. Anxiety can cause a range of …
Communicating with Someone Who is Highly Anxious
When faced with someone experiencing high anxiety, rather than giving advice, which can feel invalidating, a better approach is to seek to understand how it is for the person. Let them know you are with them, and they are not …
Advantages of Assertiveness
Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space for the other person. When we are assertive, we tend to experience less anxiety and depression because we can stand …
Working with Anxiety
I have come to understand feelings as messengers from my years of working on myself and with my clients. I often see them as little children, desperately wanting and needing something from me—the bigger the feeling, the stronger the message. …