When you have been raised by parents whose nervous systems are activated and in fight or flight all of the time, you will not have learned co-regulation. Co-regulation happens when one nervous system calms another nervous system down. This would …
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How the Nervous System Can Get Stuck in a Trauma Response
I think of healing as a holistic process, including the nervous system as part of the mind, body, spirit triad. When we are stuck in hyper or hypo arousal, the aim is to come into regulation and the ‘window of …
6 Ways to Stimulate the Vagus Nerve For Improved Mental Health
Cold exposure Meditation – increases empathy, focus and reduces anxiety and depression. Slow Breaths – try in for 3 and out for 6 Humming Exercise – increases brain health Laughter – boosts your immune system
Attachment Wounds CAN Come From Adult Relationships
Attachment wounds don’t only come from your childhood, they can also be formed in adulthood. Remember that attachment wounds are relational wounds. This means that they happened in a relationship with another person. When we are hurt deeply enough for …
10 Questions To Ask Yourself After Being Ghosted
Here we can swap the word ‘ghosted’ for ‘triggered’. It is natural to feel triggered when you have been ghosted. Most people who are ghosted report feeling left with a lack of closure. They have gone, and we are left …
Trauma and Hypoarousal
If you felt terror and couldn’t get away, it makes sense that your nervous system went into a freeze response. This is why you couldn’t run or scream, why you felt disconnected from your body. These experiences often cause shame. …
Healing Takes Time
Have you ever become frustrated with yourself on your healing journey? Thinking: Why are relationships still so difficult for me? Why do I still react like a child around my parents? Why do I still feel anxious all the time? …
What You Need To Know About Dysregulation
When you have grown up in an unsafe environment, your nervous system is always on high alert, watching out for danger. Over time, it can be difficult for your nervous system to come back into a state of balance, so …
How to Self-Soothe
Self-soothing is one of the most important life skills we can learn. So many of us did not learn this vital skill from our parents. They were distracted, absent, or unable to soothe their child because they couldn’t soothe themselves. …
What Causes a Dysregulated Nervous System?
The role of our nervous system is to ensure we survive. If we are under attack, it prepares us to move quickly, and if we are safe, it ensures other bodily functions such as digestion continue. Our parasympathetic nervous system …