If you didn’t grow up with secure attachment, it can feel like chasing something that you don’t have a clear idea of. So, let’s make it real. This is the felt sense of secure attachment. It’s calm. It’s steady. And …
Tag: nervous system
What Secure Attachment Feels Like
In a secure relationship, your nervous system’s resting place is in the ventral vagal state—a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with social engagement, safety, and calmness. The goal isn’t to stay in this state all the time. It’s …
How Dissociation is Often Misunderstood
If you have any questions about dissociation, let me know in the comments. Love, Jen
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
6 Ways to Stimulate the Vagus Nerve For Improved Mental Health
Improving mental health starts with taking care of our mind and body! The vagus nerve plays a crucial role in our well-being, and stimulating it can lead to profound benefits for our mental and emotional state. Here are 6 simple …
Tips for Co-Regulation
Did you experience co-regulation as a child? What impact did that have on you? If you feel safe eto, let me know in the comments. Wherever you are, take care of yourself. Love, Jen
What is Co-Regulation?
It is possible to learn co-regulation as an adult from a therapist, caring friend or partner. I’ll be sharing some tips for co-regulation, so look out for them.
Co-Regulation
This post is for everyone wanting to experience more co-regulation in your life. Although I’ve given an example involving a child, the same principles apply to adults when their emotional brain takes over, and their left brain shuts down. Have …
Gifting Yourself Time to Heal
Have you ever become frustrated with yourself on your healing journey? Thinking: Why are relationships still so difficult for me? Why do I still react like a child around my parents? Why do I still feel anxious all the time? …
Why Your Nervous System might be Dysregulated
We are continually subconsciously ‘reading’ our environment with our nervous system to assess its safety. Dr Stephen Porges calls this ‘neuroception’. It then adjusts our behaviour to keep us safe. We will respond appropriately to the environment, including our thoughts …