A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
Tag: Psychotherapy
When Valentine’s Day Feels Complicated: Growing Up Without Healthy Love
If you didn’t grow up seeing healthy love… Valentine’s Day can feel complicated. You might long for closeness and fear it at the same time. You might accept crumbs because chaos feels familiar. But you are allowed to learn a …
Can I Widen My Window of Tolerance?
The simple answer is yes. With time and focus, you can widen your Window of Tolerance. Why does this matter? Because the wider your window, the more resilient you become. Your prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain that …
Simple Grounding Techniques to Help You Come Back Into Your Body During Hypoarousal
When we are in hypoarousal, our system begins to shut down. We might feel numb, disconnected, or start to dissociate. One of the best ways to support yourself in this state is to gently stimulate your senses and bring awareness …
Signs of Hypoarousal: Understanding Your Body’s Shutdown Response
Hypoarousal Hypoarousal is another defence mechanism. It can feel like exhaustion, numbness, disconnection from everything and everyone, or like you’re moving through a dream. You may want to sleep a lot, eat very little, and feel shut down or dissociated. …
How to Calm Your Body When You’re in Hyperarousal (Fight or Flight)
Hyperarousal is when your body goes into fight or flight. It often shows up as anxiety, panic, restlessness, feeling out of control, or wanting to run away. In this state, it’s very hard to relax, sleep, or even digest food. …
Signs of Hyperarousal and Understanding Your Window of Tolerance
Signs of Hyperarousal Most of the time, we live within what’s called our Window of Tolerance — a safe range of arousal where we feel grounded, present, and able to self-regulate. In this state, the reasoning part of our brain …
The Window of Tolerance: Understanding Your Nervous System’s Comfort Zone
We don’t live within our Window of Tolerance all the time. When we’re inside the window, we feel grounded, present, and able to respond flexibly to what life throws at us. But when stress builds, we can tip into hyperarousal …
You Can’t Go Back After Two Weeks and Expect Them to Have Changed
Real change takes time, consistency, and a willingness to do the deep work. If the same patterns keep repeating, it’s a sign they may not be ready — or willing — to shift. Your job isn’t to wait and hope. …
Are You Betraying Yourself in Small Ways Every Day?
Little self-betrayals add up. Saying yes when you mean no. Pushing down your real needs. Forgetting to check in with yourself. We often think self-betrayal is only about the big moments. But it’s in the small choices where the patterns …