“When trauma gets triggered you don’t act your age, you act the age the wound was created.” — Gabor Maté When a trauma wound is activated, your system does not respond from your present-day self. It responds from the age …
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9 Therapies That Harness Memory Reconsolidation to Heal Trauma
When it comes to healing trauma, real change happens when the brain can safely update its old emotional memories. This is called memory reconsolidation. Many modern therapies work by gently activating painful memories and pairing them with new, safe experiences: …
Sometimes Walking Away Is How You Choose Yourself
Sometimes walking away is the moment you choose yourself. It’s the moment you decide, deep in your body, “This is the last time I will be treated like this, by anyone.” That clarity doesn’t come from anger. It comes from …
The Power of Saying “I Can’t Wait to Share My Life With You”
“I can’t wait to share my life with you.” One of the most powerful things you can say in a relationship. One of the simplest ways to create safety and connection in your relationship is to talk about the future …
Your Relationship Problems Aren’t What You Think They Are
You think you’re fighting about how late they came home. Or that they never put their phone down when you’re talking. Or that you’re always the one planning everything while they coast. But those aren’t the real problems. They’re signals …
You Don’t Have to Hold It All Anymore
If you grew up with unstable parents, it is common to have a part of you that was busy trying to stabilise them. That might have meant watching out for them drinking too much or trying to be happy to …
Why Talking About the Future Strengthens Your Relationship
One of the most powerful things you can do in your relationship is talk about the future you want to build together. It doesn’t have to be big, dramatic dreams. It can be as simple as, “I can’t wait to …
If It Hurts, It Hurts — You Don’t Have to Justify Your Pain
If it hurts, it hurts. You don’t have to justify it. You are not being too sensitive. Each of us feels things in our own way. If something hurts, that’s real. It’s not overreacting. It’s not being too much. It’s …
The Nervous System of a Woman Who Grew Up Without Emotional Support
Too many women grow up without the emotional care they need. Maybe your parents were physically present, put food on the table, and kept a roof over your head, but they weren’t emotionally attuned. Perhaps your distress was ignored, minimised, …