When we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence as children, as adults, there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn that love looks and feels like conflict, …
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![8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/1-2-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
8 Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful:
Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
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Reparenting
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent you can be to your inner child. Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself. This …
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One Way To Work With Your Critical Inner Voice
Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that Nobody cares if you are here or not You always make mistakes You are so clumsy You …
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When You ‘Act Out’, It Might Be Your Inner Child Trying To Protect You
If it wasn’t safe to connect with your parents when you were a child, it makes sense that connecting with people as an adult will be scary to your inner child. One part of you might feel safe, but …
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What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy, and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
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Inner Child Launch
The Inner Child work is one of the most effective ways I know to improve self-regulation, change your critical inner dialogue, cultivate more self-compassion and improve your relationships. The best part about doing this work is that we learn to …
![I get so upset when he doesn’t know what I need. Why is that? When our parents were dismissive of our needs, we learned that our needs didnt matter, and started to disconnect from our needs in general. So, it is not surprising, when your partner doesn't automatically know what you need, that you become genuinely distressed.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/20_04_2021_I-get-so-upset-when-he-doesnt-know-what-I-need-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
I Get So Upset When He Doesn’t Know What I Need. Why Is That?
There were so many comments on point 1 in yesterday’s post, ‘unrealistic relationship expectations: my partner should be able to read my mind’ that I thought it was worth unpacking. It is often the case that we think we are …
![1 - What is Reparenting? 2 - Reparenting is the process of learning to meet your authentic needs as an adult. 3 - We learn how to get our needs met by our primary caregiver. If that person was misattuned and our needs were not met or was overly critical or abusive, or that person could not care for themselves effectively. We may not learn to recognise our needs or expect to have them met by ourselves or anyone else. 4 - Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions 5 - We have the opportunity to learn how to: Validate our reality Be kind to ourselves rather than critical Say 'no' when we need to Comfort ourselves in a healthy way when we are feeling a strong emotion Tune into our authentic need at any moment](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1-3-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
What is Reparenting?
Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or …