You know that feeling when you desperately want to give something up, but you just can’t? We often feel stuck when different parts of us want different things. One part might want to give something up, while another part clings …
Tag: Psychotherapy
Self-Betrayal: Why You Learned to Disconnect from Your Needs
When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: When your needs as a child were not …
How to Have a Conversation with Someone You Are Worried About
If you’re worried about someone and want to start a conversation, here is a simple pocket guide for how to have that conversation. What NOT to Do If you are considering suicide, or you know someone who is, please reach …
Differences in Relationships: Why Conflict Isn’t a Sign You’re With the Wrong Person
Every relationship will have differences. It is not the differences themselves that determine whether a relationship thrives or struggles; it is how we navigate them. When we approach differences with curiosity instead of defensiveness, we open the door to understanding. …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …
When Three Triggers in 24 Hours Brought My Six-Year-Old Self Forward
This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.” I haven’t felt this part of me for ages, so it came as a surprise. I …
Suicide in Australia: Why We Need to Keep Talking About It
Trigger warning. Over the next few days, I’ll be talking openly about suicide. Looking at the statistics is confronting. If suicide rates are any measure of how we’re doing as a community when it comes to mental health, we have …
Family Secrets: How Carrying a Secret That Wasn’t Yours Can Shape Your Childhood
Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair or a family betrayal — it can fracture their sense of safety, belonging, and play. In …
Book Review
So lovely to receive messages like this from people who have been impacted by the book. Thank you for taking the time to share with me Leigh. Love, Jen
About Co-regulation from a Ten Year Old
Oh, my heart! I just can’t stop watching. She’s 14 now, and I can’t believe how smart, funny and beautiful she was and still is. I’m one lucky mum!