Dealing with the anxious/avoidant dynamic takes many couples to therapy to work on the push-and-pull dance, with one chasing and the other retreating. Both become emotionally charged, each sticking to their tendencies—intensifying emotions, questioning, and actively participating (anxious), or pulling …
Tag: Psychotherapy
How Does it Feel to Have INNER Secure Attachment?
How does it feel to have INNER secure attachment? When you have INNER secure attachment: Sounds like something we all want! But how do you cultivate INNER secure attachment? I lay out some of the ways in tomorrow’s post and …
Healing Anxious Attachment
Whenever I speak to someone who has ‘earned secure attachment’ and ask how they did it, they say, “It was a combination of things”. That was my experience, too. It wasn’t just one thing. You can’t change your attachment style …
Benefits of Being Assertive
Here’s a note about assertiveness and why it’s often the best course of action, even though it might feel scary. Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space …
Pre-Order; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Writing this book was a birthing journey. I thought writing a book would be relatively easy. I love research. I love healing, and I love the subject matter. But writing it was a labour of love. There were hours and …
“Heal Your Anxious Attachment” Lands February 2024.
I wrote it to help people. Plain and simple. It is so much easier to have someone who has done the research and tried and tested what works. “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” is a journey of healing, of coming home …
Why did I write “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”?
Because you asked for it. About two years ago, I went through a phase where I was posting a lot about attachment styles. I was asked repeatedly, “Is there a book you can recommend about healing from it?” So, like …
Triggers Unpacked
“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …