This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …
Tag: Healing
Gabor Maté Quote
This resonates deeply with Richard Schwatz’s work, in that Internal Family Systems (IFS) finds there are NO BAD PARTS.Gabor Mate nailed it here. The part that reaches for the alcohol or the drugs hopes to find something. Often, it is …
9 Signs You Grew Up Chronically Lonely
Ongoing loneliness as a child impacts us in many different ways as adults. How has this impacted you? Let me know in the comments.
I’m Trying To Make Them Understand
Have you ever found yourself repeating yourself and trying to say the same thing in a hundred different ways to be understood? I know I have.
What to Expect in Your First IFS Therapy Session
I explore what might happen in this episode in your first IFS therapy session. Although this will differ with every therapist, my aim here is to give you an overview of what might happen because sometimes we have scared parts …
D Schwartz Quote
This is how you can make a relationship conscious. When you use the pain, you trigger one another as a guide inward. Rather than blame each other, you meet your pain with curiosity. You turn inward and get curious about …
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
IFS Meditation – Getting to Know a Protector
Today’s podcast is the first of the subscription offering on Apple Podcasts. In the subscription, you’ll find a growing list of practical tools and conversations that I have found to be priceless on my own healing journey. In this powerful …
Intergenerational Trauma
This line of questioning will help you discover a legacy burden (to use Internal Family Systems (IFS) language). I have a whole list of legacy burdens that come through my family. One I have worked with repeatedly over the years …