All relationships need nurturing. I like to think of relationships like plants. If we leave a plant in sandy soil and give it too much sun and not enough water, it will quickly die. No two plants are the same. …
Tag: Healing
Family Dynamics During the Holiday Period
A good friend of mine used to joke that he could always test how much work he had done on himself the preceding year according to how much he got triggered during the holiday season. It’s true, you can spend …
Building a Deep Connection with Your Partner
This is about knowing your partner’s world. It is difficult to really love someone that you don’t know. You might read this list and think, of course, I know these things about my partner. That is great. But know that …
Understanding the 5 Stages of a Relationship
One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottmans, fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree. It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …
Strong Friendships are the Secret to Relationship Success
When there is a strong friendship, repairs in the relationship work better. In the Gottman’s book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (1999), they talk about the importance of repairs. In any relationship, we have to expect to have …
Tips to Consciously Create the Life you Want
“The best way to predict your future is to create it” – Abraham Lincoln. When we start our healing journey, we move from a state of lack of awareness into a place of awareness. Awareness of how we think, speak, …
Key Components for Boundary Setting with In-Laws
This is a personal one…for me, point 3, ‘manage your expectations’ was a huge learning with my in-laws. I grew up with basically six people in my family; my mum, dad, sister, nan, and grandad (my mother’s parents), and we …
Tips for Boundary Setting with In-Laws
I have received many DMs about the struggle to merge two different families with differing expectations, norms, and values. The critical thing to remember with in-laws is to have a united front with your partner. This is where I see …
Understanding Outbursts
When we push our emotions down, they get stuck in the body. We have phases where we feel stable, and life goes on until something takes the lid off. It might be your child spilling paint on the carpet, it …