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D Schwartz Quote

ByJennifer Nurick
“Generally, what your partner provokes in you is what you need to heal. If, when they hurt you, you can focus inside and go behind the protectors to the exiles they protect, you have a map that will lead you directly to a kind of buried treasure.” - Richard Schwartz. PhD

This is how you can make a relationship conscious. 

When you use the pain, you trigger one another as a guide inward. Rather than blame each other, you meet your pain with curiosity. You turn inward and get curious about where the pain will lead you. 

More often than not, it will lead to a wounded and exiled part. This is where deep inner healing can happen. 

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Jennifer Nurick is a Master's-qualified Clinical Psychotherapist, attachment and trauma therapist and couples therapist with over 20 years in private practice. She helps adults and couples heal anxious and avoidant attachment, childhood trauma and recurring relationship patterns, drawing on IFS, EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Jennifer is the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment (New Harbinger), host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast and founder of Psychotherapy Central.

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