One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottman’s, fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree. It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …
Couples and Isolation
There has never been so much pressure placed on the couple. We are supposed to be one another’s confidant, best friend, lover, the person we share all our chores with, work out our finances with, and share child rearing with. …
What to Expect in Your First IFS Therapy Session
I explore what might happen in this episode in your first IFS therapy session. Although this will differ with every therapist, my aim here is to give you an overview of what might happen because sometimes we have scared parts …
D Schwartz Quote
This is how you can make a relationship conscious. When you use the pain, you trigger one another as a guide inward. Rather than blame each other, you meet your pain with curiosity. You turn inward and get curious about …
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Brené Brown On Pathology
Let’s take OCD as an example. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is in the DSM-5. The DSM-5 is The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Illnesses, the latest edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s professional reference book on mental health. Let’s take …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
Falling For Someone’s Potential
When you are with someone because you see their potential, you are busy working on a project. Not accepting them for who they are. If who they are is not what you are looking for, then why are you still …
IFS Meditation – Getting to Know a Protector
Today’s podcast is the first of the subscription offering on Apple Podcasts. In the subscription, you’ll find a growing list of practical tools and conversations that I have found to be priceless on my own healing journey. In this powerful …
Intergenerational Trauma
This line of questioning will help you discover a legacy burden (to use Internal Family Systems (IFS) language). I have a whole list of legacy burdens that come through my family. One I have worked with repeatedly over the years …