You suspect (or have been told by your partner) that you are dating someone who is anxiously attached. You are growing in love with them and want to be close to them, but it feels difficult. You wonder if there …
Crazy, Not Insane
I just finished this documentary about forensic psychiatrist Dorothy Otnow Lewis’s work with serial killers. She spent years trying to work out what makes a killer, including looking at the neuroscience and brain scans of murderers. She discovers evidence to …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
“Heal Your Anxious Attachment” Lands February 2024.
I wrote it to help people. Plain and simple. It is so much easier to have someone who has done the research and tried and tested what works. “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” is a journey of healing, of coming home …
Trauma Symptoms
When we have experienced neglect or abuse in childhood, the child must adapt to survive. The child might survive by leaving their body when the abuse is taking place. Then as an adult, when there is physical discomfort, or someone …
Why did I write “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”?
Because you asked for it. About two years ago, I went through a phase where I was posting a lot about attachment styles. I was asked repeatedly, “Is there a book you can recommend about healing from it?” So, like …
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is part of courage. We couldn’t be courageous if we didn’t experience some fear and feeling of vulnerability. Let me know if you need this today.
Learning Vedic Meditation
Vedic meditation is a technique dating back thousands of years in India that emphasises effortlessness in meditation, allowing thoughts and accepting what is happening in your body as you meditate. My teacher, Anne, did a beautiful ceremony and gave us …
Feeding Seva
Today, I helped to feed over 5,000 people in Southern India. In Hinduism, seva means selfless service done with love. It was such a wonderful experience. I was responsible for filling all the water cups on one side of a …
When the Freeze Response is Chronic, It Is Related to Depression.
Your automatic response in any stressful situation will be the one that your autonomic nervous system found most effective in the past. The freeze response takes over when we cannot fight or run away from the situation and it is …