Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
Pause – When you feel yourself about to ‘act out,’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you? Can you think? I am feeling so much …
If this resonates with you, you will love my FREE gift to you – ‘Five Exercises to Connect to Your Inner Child’ e-book. In it, you will find: Comment on Insta to receive a free link My gift to you, Jen
My FREE gift to you – ‘Five Exercises to Connect to Your Inner Child’ e-book. In it, you will find: Comment on Insta to receive a free link My gift to you, Jen
If this resonates with you, you will love my FREE gift to you – ‘Five Exercises to Connect to Your Inner Child’ e-book. In it, you will find: Comment on Insta to receive a free link My gift to you, …
Feeling hyperaroused can mean being overwhelmed with energy, manifesting as anxiety, panic, or the urge to flee—classic signs of your body kicking into fight or flight mode. This state makes relaxation challenging, affecting sleep and digestion. 💡 Here’s a tip …
Most of the time, our lives unfold within a safe range of arousal—a state where we can function well, regulate our emotions, feel grounded, and stay mentally present. As we encounter daily challenges, our arousal levels fluctuate, sometimes feeling like …
With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …
“You’re probably reading this because you are frustrated at yourself for choosing another unavailable partner—emotionally, locationally, or otherwise. Whatever the situation, here you are again with yet, wondering if it is you or just bad luck. People with an anxious …
