Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who uses an integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
As a psychotherapist and healer specialising in trauma, I’ve often found myself wondering—how do other cultures heal trauma? After all, trauma is not new. Throughout history, people have lived through war, illness, displacement, and abuse. So, how did our ancestors …
Not all trauma is the same. And the type of trauma we experience can shape how we heal. Shock trauma is usually the result of a one-off, overwhelming event—like an accident or a sudden loss. It can cause intense emotional …
The sun is still out. We took a week off last week to take the kids up the coast, 5 hours north of Sydney. We stopped to visit family on the way up and had some boating fun on Easter …
Working with a therapist can be one of the most empowering experiences of your life.Many people have never had the chance to be truly seen, heard, and held in a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space. That in itself is healing.While …
So lovely to receive messages like this from people who have been impacted by the book. Thank you for taking the time to share with me Leigh. Love, Jen
Last week, on the Psychotherapy Central podcast, I spoke with Dr Clare Rosoman about attachment injuries and just how wide-ranging they can be, and how they disrupt fundamental questions of emotional safety and trust. We then review the Attachment Injury …
Comparing ourselves to others can be such a waste of energy! Let us first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, hopeful, as though anything is possible. …
Have you ever fallen into the trap of thinking that once you’ve “healed enough,” life will be perfect?You’ll have the perfect job aligned with your purpose, the perfect relationship, the sun will shine daily, and strangers will hand you money …
Having a go-to grounding list can be incredibly helpful when we’re feeling overwhelmed—especially if we have a trauma history. When we’re triggered, our sympathetic nervous system kicks in—hello, fight-or-flight. In those moments, we need simple, accessible ways to soothe ourselves …
Ever notice how you keep having the same argument with your partner? Different situation, same theme—on repeat. Let’s take a classic example: money.Maybe you’re the saver and your partner’s the spender. When they make a big purchase, you feel frustrated—maybe …