“A trigger is when something happens and we have an emotional reaction that seems stronger than the situation calls for. Something has happened that has caused your internal alarm system to go off. This is a moment to be curious …
My New Book; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
When Consistency is Boring
I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Consistency In Relationships
Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy. Inconsistency might look like: Notice how you respond to inconsistency. …
Slowing Down
Today, I’m intentionally slowing down. One of the best ways to do that is to walk more slowly. I tend to walk with no time to spare, with the top of my body leaning a little forward. I think it …
Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Pre Order Now
The book is finished after a year of writing it. The cover is designed, the typesetting has been done, and I have the final galley (as they say in publishing). So what’s next? Take it to India to receive the …
On Your Side
Of course, there are times to argue, stand your ground and debate, but when something is really important to your partner, sometimes you need to have their back.