Three years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for a while about 4 weeks before he passed. As he laid in his bed getting weaker and weaker, and having a …
Fathers and Sons
After reading the last two posts lots of people have asked “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember that there …
How Does the Father Wound Show Up?
The father wound is a wound that is passed down family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds, which created feelings of unworthiness within. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All …
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
Steve Biddulph Quote
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
Family Dynamics in the Workplace
Has anyone here run away from your family of origin only to find the same dynamics being played out at work? For many people, the answer is YES!!! Why is that? In my view, this is our psyche trying to …
A Few Tips To Handle Gaslighting At Work
Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it. The behaviour is easier to manage if there are other people in the office who see what is going on. It is much more difficult when one …
Gaslighting At Work
I have seen gaslighting at work destroy lives and create total misery. Gaslighting is a power game and a form of emotional abuse, where one person’s version of reality is denied by denying facts, memories, their interpretation of events, or …
How to Stop Gaslighting
One of the main things to be aware of with people who use gaslighting is BOUNDARIES. When you know it is black and they say it is white, and you know there is no point wasting your energy arguing that …
Gaslighting By Parents
Have you ever been with a parent who totally denies the reality of your childhood? It happens in the small moments such as: Adult child: You and dad used to fight all the time; I was terrified growing up in …