Let’s not beat around the bush. Dealing with passive-aggressive people can be REALLY tricky. I know because I grew up with some, and I have been one at different times in my life. When someone is being passive-aggressive, they are …
Category: Relationships
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Detecting Passive-Aggressive Behaviour.
A lot of passive-aggressive communication comes from a difficulty with communicating assertively. It can be challenging for passive-aggressive people to share things they think might be received negatively. They might find it difficult to: say ‘no’ put boundaries in place …
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The Effects of Drawing Children into Adult Conflicts
One of the most common examples of this is during a divorce. Both parents are vying for the emotional support of the children. They are consciously manipulating the children to align with them. This might take the form of comments …
![We all have different parts of ourselves. Let’s say I’m at home in my PJs, and a friend calls and invites me to a bar. Part of me thinks, yes, sounds great, let's go! And the other part says, “no, I want to stay home in my PJs and watch a movie”. Reparenting is making space for the child ego state to be heard and validated. As we do this, we naturally start to access and develop our loving, functional inner mother/father to lovingly parent the child during moments of present-day or remembered stress and trauma. So the essence of reparenting is helping the loving part of self-care for the wounded part of the self. It’s some of the most transformative work I’ve done.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/24_06_2022_REEL_Tile-for-website_What-is-Reparenting-1080-×-1080-px-copy-2-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
What is Reparenting?
When we have experienced neglect, abuse, invalidation, narcissism, conflict or violence as children, as adults, there is still part of us that is expecting the same behaviour from those we love. We learn that love looks and feels like conflict, …
![Recognising The Father Wound THE PROTECTOR (creates a hard shell) I don’t need his love; I’ll shut down my deep yearning to be close. I’ll try to punish him for not loving me. I’ll be tough. I find weakness repulsive. I don’t care what he thinks or wants. I’ll do what I like (rebel). As an adult tends to: Deny own deep need to be loved and accepted Be wary of men Expect to be rejected by men Keeps one foot in and one foot out of relationships Can be called “hard to get to know.”](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/1-5-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Recognising The Father Wound
The father wound is passed down through family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All children are hard-wired for love. Children yearn for the …
![THE UNAVAILABLE FATHER You either pushed him away, “I don’t need his love”, and denied your deep need to be loved, OR you would do anything to gain his attention and approval, even if you abandoned yourself in the process. Are you still doing this with other men in your life?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/06_06_2022_BLUE_Father-Dynamics-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
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A Powerful Quite From Steve Biddulph
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …
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6 Steps to Stop Gaslighting
One of the main things to be aware of with people who use gaslighting is BOUNDARIES. When you know it is black, and they say it is white, there is no point wasting your energy arguing that it is black. …
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You Might Be Experiencing Gaslighting If You:
I thought it might be useful to see a list of things you might experience if you are living with gaslighting. This is not meant as a diagnostic tool of any kind, purely information.