Consistency in relationships is underrated. It is one of the most significant factors that creates real and felt safety in a relationship. We need safety to move into deeper intimacy.
Inconsistency might look like:
- Sometimes showering you with love and sometimes hardly calling
- Heaps of texts and then none
- Sometimes, having your back, and other times, not
- Saying you will do something and then not doing it
Notice how you respond to inconsistency.
- Pull back
- Get angry and lash out
- Get sad
It is natural to have a response to inconsistency. This is where your work is.
The next step is to become curious about your partner’s inconsistency and speak to them about it.
Let me know if consistency is super important to you.