“Dissociation is the essence of trauma. The overwhelming experience is split off and fragmented, so that the emotions, sounds, images, thoughts, and physical sensations related to the trauma take on a life of their own.” (Van der Kolk, 2014, p66). …
Category: Healing
How Trauma Affects the Brain
Trauma affects the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus. Ongoing trauma is associated with “lasting change in these brain areas” (Bremmer, 2006). When there is a potential threat the amygdala sends an instant message to the hippocampus, …
Intergenerational Trauma
Intergenerational trauma is real. Trauma is passed down through family lines. When a family member experiences a trauma, such as being raised by an alcoholic, experiencing slavery or genocide, these traumas have biological and behavioural impacts on future generations. …
5 Day Self-Care Program
I have been busy making something special for you. I wanted to give you something that you could use to provide yourself with a re-set. Itburnout is easy to forget about ourselves and start walking the hot path towards burn-out …
The 4 Step Apology
When we need to apologise, practising alone and saying the words out loud can be SUPER helpful. We can get clear about what we are apologising for, what happened for us and how we plan to resolve it. This can …
I knew I was growing when I was okay with not being okay
We all have a different sense of self. We might see ourselves as strong, wise or stable. It can be a shock when suddenly you are not feeling your ‘normal’ self and start to know that you are NOT okay. …
Cycle Breakers Are Often The Black Sheep of The Family
Cycle breakers are often the black sheep of the family because they choose to focus on breaking toxic patterns internally and externally. It can be lonely, know that you are not alone and it IS worth it. You are busy …
The Most Beautiful Words on Earth
I think sometimes we can hear the words ‘I love you’ so often that they start to lose their true meaning. I do wonder about languages that have more nuanced words for ‘love’ if this would increase the meaningfulness in …
Real Validation
It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …
Healing Is Not A Destination.
Most of us start the healing journey because we just want to feel better. That pesky stuff from our childhood that we put in the past to forge a new version of ourselves rears its head. We might push it …