Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
Tag: Relationships
UK Adventures
last month, I went for a beautiful walk with my family and thought how wonderful it would be to hang out with my friends and family in the UK. One hour later, I had one hour to pack my suitcase …
No Bad Parts – Everything you need to know about Internal Family Systems (IFS)
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
IFS and Attachment Theory
Have you ever wondered why you react to certain situations or relationships in a specific way? Are you curious about the intricate workings of your mind and how it shapes your experiences? Today, I want to dive into two fascinating …
9 Signs You Grew Up Chronically Lonely
Chronic loneliness is not a diagnosis. It is a term used to describe loneliness experienced over a long period. This can happen for many different reasons. It might be that you grew up as an only child with a parent …
When You ‘Act Out’ It Might Be Part Of You That Is Trying To Protect You
The last time I ‘acted out’, my inner child was trying to defend me. She felt that the other person had unjustly exaggerated a mistake I had made, and her response was ‘fight’. She was trying to protect me. When …
Acting Out
Pause – When you feel yourself about to ‘act out,’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you? Can you think? I am feeling so much …
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Leave a comment if you know this inner push / pull dynamic. I think it is something most of us have experienced, if not in a relationship, then in another area of life. A wonderfully effective way to work with …
Coercive Control
I have witnessed some of these relationships up close and personal, and I can tell you that they can be SUPER confusing because the person concerned will often make you feel that you are the centre of the universe. They …