When you don’t feel safe, the usual thing to do is to adapt your behaviour to create the most safety possible. This is when we people-please and shape-shift for approval or to keep the peace. When this happens, the need to attach has overridden the need to be authentic.
We do this unconsciously, even as adults.
When you ARE conscious of changing your behaviour, get curious.
Why do you change your behaviour?
Who do you shape-shift with?
What is it about that relationship that makes you feel unsafe?
What would be more authentic?
What are the relationships where I can be my authentic self?
What creates a feeling of safety in that relationship?
What sensations in my body tell me I’m safe in that relationship?