I see a lot of people run when met with consistency. Why? When you are used to intimate relationships being chaotic, unstable and unpredictable, you end up living in a constant state of stress (sympathetic activation/fight or flight). This state …
Tag: saftey
Safe In a Relationship
When you don’t feel safe, the usual thing to do is to adapt your behaviour to create the most safety possible. This is when we people-please and shape-shift for approval or to keep the peace. When this happens, the need …
The Importance of Safety For Healing
Take a moment to notice what around you creates a feeling of safety in your body. What connection feels safe to you? Who can you connect with that allows your body to exhale, to rest deeply?Where might you find that …
A Beautiful Quote From Gabor Maté
When safety is threatened, and we are connected with others, we are more able to deal with the threat. From an IFS perspective, when we are connected to Self (similar to the soul or Higher Self), our other parts will …
Perfect is Safe – But at What Cost?
I know that feeling of wanting to be perfect. I feel it when I’m producing all of my content; when I’m doing videos, or writing, it’s my way of hiding. When I’m busy trying to be perfect, I can’t just …
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Some questions to ponder: Where am I deeply passionate about something in my life? What might self-actualisation in this area look like for me? What can I do daily to live more of that future self in my life? If …
If You Want To Improve The World, Start By Making Yourself And Others Feel Safe.
Imagine a world where we are each conscious of the level of felt safety in our body at any moment. Imagine a world where we can bring ourselves into a felt sense of safety (when it is appropriate and we …
Retraumatization in Target Groups
Phase 1 of the trauma healing work is called ‘safety and stabilization’. During this phase of the work, we are helping the client to create safety in their inner and outer lives. This work is difficult when there are genuine …