I just finished a discussion with one of my supervisors around connection. I have a deep feeling that if we were more connected many of our problems would improve, especially in the field of mental health. When I stop and …
How To Develop A Strong Sense Of Self
Discovering who we are and what our values are takes time and is an ever-evolving phenomenon. It is even more challenging in a culture with strong ideas about what we ‘should’ value and what we ‘should’ aspire to, even what …
Trauma to Transform or Transfer?
n the full version, we had the opportunity to discuss trauma, how it sits in the body, how it can be transformed, and how it is transferred intergenerationally. We also cover attachment theory, different types of trauma, and trauma responses. …
Co-Regulation
Co-Regulation We are not born knowing how to soothe ourselves. We need to learn the felt sense of being soothed from someone who can bear our distress and stay regulated in their own nervous system. This is known as co-regulation. …
The Process of Reconnecting with your Needs.
If you grew up with a caregiver, who was not attuned to your needs, who put their needs before yours, over time, you learn to deny your needs. It can then be difficult to identify your needs as an adult …
Trauma and Hypoarousal
If you felt terror and couldn’t get away, it makes sense that your nervous system went into a freeze response. This is why you couldn’t run or scream, why you felt disconnected from your body. These experiences often cause shame. …
The Healing Journey
There is a cycle we all go through while we are healing. It is the cycle of discovery, healing and then growth. As we discover, it can be confronting. It can be confronting to watch yourself push your partner away …
We Can’t Expect Our Siblings to Validate Our Reality.
If this is something you have had to work with, talking to a therapist or other supportive people outside of your family can be incredibly affirming. Let me know if this is something you have experienced and how you have …
Communicating Your Needs
How do I ask for what I need? The most important part is KNOWING what you need. Often, we are not really clear about what our needs are. They get mixed up in the jumble of what we DON’T want. …
Protest Behaviours
Protest behaviours are ways of communicating. They have either been role modelled in your family of origin, or you have adapted them to stay safe in some way. For example, you might have witnessed your mother get angry about your …