Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that Nobody cares if you are here or not You always make mistakes You are so clumsy You …
4 Ways That Fear Blocks Connection
Part of what makes therapy so remarkable is that we are heard in a non-judgemental, curious way. There is no criticism, no loaded questions, none of the baggage that is present in an intimate relationship. The power of …
When You ‘Act Out’, It Might Be Your Inner Child Trying To Protect You
If it wasn’t safe to connect with your parents when you were a child, it makes sense that connecting with people as an adult will be scary to your inner child. One part of you might feel safe, but …
Your Wounded Inner Child
A staggering 99% of you in a recent online poll felt that you had a wounded inner child part. You said that this part is showing up as shame, the fear of abandonment, the fear of trusting others and letting …
What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy, and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
14 Signs of a Wounded Inner Child
Inner child work is some of the most profound inner work you can do on yourself. In Sydney, I know many therapists and healers, all of whom have done their inner child work. It is a common language we all …
Inner Child Launch
The Inner Child work is one of the most effective ways I know to improve self-regulation, change your critical inner dialogue, cultivate more self-compassion and improve your relationships. The best part about doing this work is that we learn to …
Inner Child Tantrums
When I am triggered, I know the reaction is coming from an unhealed, younger part of myself. Let me give you an example. Let’s imagine that your mother left without any forewarning when you were seven years old. She was …
Learning to Validate Your Needs
You might find yourself being proud of your lack of needs. In the past, it has kept you safe. You have learned to rely on yourself to meet your own needs. This can create independent and highly capable people. But …
Acting Out
When you feel yourself about to ‘act out’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you. Can you think, “wow! I am feeling so much anger …