When we need to apologise, practising alone and saying the words out loud can be SUPER helpful.
We can get clear about what we are apologising for, what happened for us and how we plan to resolve it. This can help us not to get defensive when we are in the middle of our apology.
If you find apologising hard, know that you are not alone. When we have done something we are not proud of, a part of us often remembers being shamed and punished for the mistake. Commonly, this part comes forward as an adult internally when we know we have messed up.
Let your inner child know that they are safe. That EVERYONE makes mistakes at some point, that you will take care of this apology and do your best to make amends. Let them know that they are safe.