This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
Notice What’s Already Okay
Sometimes I notice that I’m over-focused on what isn’t working or what I think is wrong. It seems that all of the okay things vanish from my awareness in those moments. When I bring them back, even one small thing, …
A Powerful Quote From Stephen Porges.
Trauma is so much more than psychological. Trauma is physiological too. I am so grateful to Stephen Porges and Bessel van Der Kolk for their work in bringing this to the forefront and increasing our understanding of the impact of …
The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base
What’s your experience of being in a ‘couple bubble’? Let me know in the comments. Love, Jen
The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base
As adults, we need safe and secure places where we can come to be refueled and replenished. We venture out into the world, meet challenges, and experience things that rock us. Our partner is there for us at these times. …
What is a ‘Couple Bubble’?
The couple bubble should feel safe. When you are together, there is a sense of being loved, nurtured and protected by one another. A mutual flow of energy, not one person doing all of the work. It is the foundation …
Do You Have a ‘Couple Bubble’?
The couple bubble is a mutual agreement that, in essence, creates a secure relationship. There is a sense of safety, protection, caring, and love. When there is a couple bubble in place, there is a sense of exhaling, knowing that …
5 Steps to Reality-Check your Relationship
Sometimes we need to reality-check our relationship. It is okay to want a relationship. Humans are social creatures, we are hard-wired for connection. But sometimes we can want it so badly that we ignore the red flags and we make …
5 Things to Ground you In Reality in your Relationship
If you are wondering if you are In Limmerence, it could be time to have a reality check. Are they honest? Are they transparent? Do they hold themselves accountable? Do they live morally? Are your values aligned? Do you feel …
Working with Limerence
When we work with our inner child, we are working with our patterns around limerence. Know that you have got this! If you want to know more about Inner Child or ‘parts work’, check out the ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ …