Abandonment fear is real, and it makes sense. When we have experienced loss as a child in the form of: Neglect Not receiving the love and nurturance we needed Loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling or pet Loss of friends …
Gas Lighting At Work
Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it.The behaviour is easier to manage if other people in the office see what is happening. It is much more difficult when one person is singled out by …
Abandonment Fear
Here we talk about abandonment fear, anxious attachment, and some ways to work with this
Abandonment Fear Often Comes From Different Types of Childhood Loss
It is possible to work on our abandonment fear. Some powerful tools I have experienced are EMDR, somatic psychotherapy, and inner child work. These are all elements of evidence-based trauma therapy. When we expand the definition of trauma to include …
Taking up all the air space – From Brexit to Covid
Whenever I see something happening outside of myself, I always reflect internally. If there is something out there that is taking up all the air space, I wonder if something in my own life is taking up all the air …
EMDR & The Brain
My experience of EMDR therapy and the brain is that there is a kind of unraveling that occurs. The brain is allowed to flow freely and link different times and events to come to the resolution it needs. I am …
EMDR Session – From Panic to Laughter
The image that I had frozen in my mind was on my wedding day. After a year of turmoil, I walk to the top of the staircase to walk down the aisle. My parents and the bridesmaids have all gone …
EMDR Therapy for Distressing Memories and Events
We all have memories that get stuck. I had one of walking down the aisle on my wedding day. It wasn’t a big T trauma, but for me, it was traumatic, and I had a frozen memory of it that …
Being the Mother of a Creative Child
All children are naturally creative. I often feel too busy to be creative, and that way of being doesn’t move me towards health or self-fulfillment. Now, when Ariel shops to randomly write the first letter of her name in the …
Ways to build self trust
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …