Your automatic response in any stressful situation will be the one that your autonomic nervous system found most effective in the past. The freeze response takes over when we cannot fight or run away from the situation, and it is …
When Your Defence Mechanism Is to Freeze
You make sense. I hear so many people feeling confused about their response to a stressful situation. Asking for years: “Why didn’t I scream?” “Why didn’t I run?” “Why didn’t I kick?” “Was I being complicit?” NO, NO, NO, NO!!!! …
The Freeze Trauma Response
The freeze response is an INVOLUNTARY physiological change in your body and mind when you feel threatened. In a split second, we have established that we can’t run (flight) or defend ourselves (fight), so we freeze. Freezing allows us NOT …
When you are a Cycle Breaker…
The more Cycle Breakers I meet, the more I hear this story. This feeling of not really belonging to your family of origin, of feeling innately different, like you are a completely different species. For a while, this often causes …
Adaptive Survival Strategies
Let’s talk about Complex PTSD, childhood trauma, and its effects. The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are known responses to trauma, and they are ways that the body responds to danger, overseen by the autonomic nervous system. When we …
You are all Star Dust
There is something about this idea that gives me relief. To know that you and I are made up of the same cosmic matter. That the elements that make up your body: Oxygen 65% Carbon 18.5% Hydrogen 9.5% Nitrogen 3.2% …
The Johari Window
Do The Work – Part of my work as a therapist is to explore my unconscious, what might be known to others and not to me, and what is unknown by others and myself, to explore my blind spots. Why …
Family Systems
How did you manage this process or are you still in the thick of it?Were you given space to explore your identity?Let me know in the comments
Boundaries Are A Love Language
When we have grown up with few boundaries and been taught that boundaries are selfish, it can be challenging to put them in place as an adult. It can be challenging to know what is appropriate, what you need, and …
How We Meet On Each Level, If At All
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, I wonder how that area could be energised in some way? How could you meet in that area differently? What …