Abandonment fear is real, and it makes sense.
When we have experienced loss as a child in the form of:
- Not receiving the love and nurturance we needed
- Loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling or pet
- Loss of friends and community
- Being with a family who find your emotions ‘too much.’
It makes sense that as adults, we might fear being abandoned.
Check-in with your body right now.
When you think about being abandoned, where do you feel it in your body? For me, it is in my throat, and I feel kind of numb.
When I feel that, I know the younger part of me is reaching into the present, letting me know that she is scared and needs me.
I take a moment to meet that feeling of abandonment in myself and that younger part of me with compassion, understanding and kindness.
When I do this, I am less likely to fall into old adaptations of people-pleasing or game playing. I am bringing my energy and attention back to ME.