Abandonment Fear Might Cause us to:

Abandonment fear is real, and it makes sense. 

When we have experienced loss as a child in the form of:

  • Neglect
  • Not receiving the love and nurturance we needed
  • Loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling or pet
  • Loss of friends and community
  • Being with a family who find your emotions ‘too much.’

It makes sense that as adults, we might fear being abandoned.

Check-in with your body right now.

When you think about being abandoned, where do you feel it in your body? For me, it is in my throat, and I feel kind of numb.

When I feel that, I know the younger part of me is reaching into the present, letting me know that she is scared and needs me. 

I take a moment to meet that feeling of abandonment in myself and that younger part of me with compassion, understanding and kindness.

When I do this, I am less likely to fall into old adaptations of people-pleasing or game playing. I am bringing my energy and attention back to ME.

  • Abandonment Fear Might Cause us to: