A great friendship is a gift. It is finding the people who resonate with us. Who seem to understand who we are. If you are looking for YOUR people, don’t give up. With 7.7 billion people in the world – …
The Qualities of ‘Great Friendships’
Truly great friendships are worth their weight in gold and stand the test of time. When I think of my ‘great friendships’, I think of my family of choice. I think about the natural connectedness of the ‘villages’ we lived …
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships
What are the elements of a healthy friendship? Sometimes, it can be challenging to spot the warning signs when we are in a toxic friendship. We might feel that we are relying on that person for connection, validation or support. …
How SHAME Can Stop People Apologising:
Everyone has a different relationship with shame, depending mainly on how they were raised. Shame says, “I’m a terrible person”, and guilt says, “I did a terrible thing.” When you have DONE something wrong, you can repair it. When you …
4 Step Apology
This might sound like: “I’m sorry I didn’t call to let you know I would be late for the show. That was thoughtless of me. Next time I’ll be sure to let you know. Can you forgive me?” Remember, when …
Apologising
Please note that this doesn’t say, “I must apologise all the time to keep the peace.” Owning our part is powerful. Even if we only own a tiny part. Think back to the last time someone owned their part of …
How to Respond to an Apology When It’s Not Okay.
Answering these questions might aid you in finding your next step forward. We all make mistakes. The magic is in the repair. You are allowed some time and space while taking care of yourself and getting clear about your needs. …
5 Components of an Apology – According to the Research
Have you ever had an apology that didn’t feel complete? I know I have. And I have probably given them too. Jennifer Thomas and Gary Chapman asked thousands of American’s what they wanted and needed when they received an apology. …
Breaking the Shame Cycle
Shame is often transmitted through family lines. Parents use shame-based parenting, the children grow up with shame and use shame-based parenting, and the pattern is repeated. Shame is something that comes up in therapy regularly. One of the most powerful …