Over and over again, I see people who have had to look outside the BIOLOGICAL family unit for affirmation, acceptance, connection and love. Sometimes this is due to physical distance. When children immigrate as adults, they need to build a community of LOGICAL family. This has been the case for me. As a Brit living in Australia, I have a logical family of friends who are like my brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles; their kids are like my kid’s cousins. They are all growing up like family in the absence of our biological families.
Another reason for developing a logical family is a toxic family system or rejection by the biological family. This can have a considerable impact on our self-worth and sense of self. The logical family are the people who understand us, see us, validate our experiences and have our back.
They can literally save our lives.