Cycle Breaker

​​Who are the CYCLE BREAKERS out there???

Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role, and it is often not chosen by the person concerned. It is a deep impulse and inner knowing that the old ways of being in the family system are not for them.⁣⁣

It takes courage to step outside the norm within a family system. There can be ridicule, criticism, and judgment, as others in the family might be scared of this change in a member of the family. Sometimes, family members will use subtle forms of shaming to stop the change.⁣⁣

It might sound like:⁣⁣

  • Why are you wasting your time going to therapy?⁣⁣
  • What is wrong with hitting kids? It didn’t do you any harm.⁣⁣
  • Do you think you are better than us?⁣⁣
  • Ashamed of us?⁣⁣
  • What’s the point of education? We didn’t need it.⁣⁣
  • What’s all this touchy-feely rubbish you are learning about?⁣⁣
  • There was nothing wrong with your childhood. You were the problem.⁣⁣

What else have you heard that was meant to keep you small? If you feel comfortable, share in the comments.⁣⁣

Remember – for all the cycle breakers – you can do this. Have courage on your healing journey.⁣⁣


Much love, Jen