Wherever you are in your #healingjourney, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict …
10 Signs You Have a ‘Father Wound’
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …
Reparenting
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent you can be to your inner child. Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself. This …
Day of Mourning
I allow myself to feel this grief—the pain of it all. Day of Mourning. Love Jen
Our Early Attachment Experience Forms the Template for our Future Relationships
When there has been a consistent, felt experience of safety and connection, a secure attachment forms, and when this has been missing, an insecure attachment is a result. As children, we create adaptive strategies to get our needs met. These …
We All Want To Parent Our Children In A Way That Feels Good
I love that this community has so many parents trying their very best. And I hear a lot of self-criticism and self-doubt as we try to meet our own or society’s parenting expectations. One of the most significant changes I …
Summer Holidays in Australia
I am so grateful for our time in nature with family and friends traveling up the NSW coast. Some of the highlights: Staring up at the stars for hours laying in a freshwater hot tub heated by a log fire …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support…
Of course, all mothers are in a relationship with their children, and there will be a natural flow of emotional support within any healthy relationship. What I am talking about here is when the amount of emotional support required by …
12 Signs You Have a Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to understand what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about how …
Attachment Trauma Can Occur
A holistic approach to trauma defines attachment injury/wounding not as an event or a challenged relationship, but rather as a disruption and overwhelm to our body-mind’s capacity to feel safe, secure, cared for, and consistently connected with. Attachment trauma may …