One of the best ways to move through the traumatic re-enactments is with a Trauma-Informed Therapist. Someone who will hold a loving space for your healing and integration. Where you can review your triggers and patterns and form new ways of being in the world.
Reference: Van der Kolk, B. A. (2017). Developmental Trauma Disorder: Toward a rational diagnosis for children with complex trauma histories. Psychiatric annals, 35(5), 401-408.