One of the problems with limerence is the level of self-hatred that often emerges from it. Often you know that you are in a fantasy, but still, feel unable to step out of it. The pain of stepping out of …
Limerence a State of Love Sickness
Limerence was first identified by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s in her book, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being In Love. When we fall into infatuation, we don’t see clearly, and we risk ignoring obvious red flags. …
Deep Attunement For Trauma
As a therapist, it is my job to be deeply attuned to my client, notice when someone is becoming distressed, and assist them in returning to their window of tolerance.I like to think of it as good mothering because it …
I’m Anxious and My Partner is Avoidant. Will it Ever Work?
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Breathwork
We are using Holotropic Breathwork created by Stanislav & Christina Grof. I feel so moved by the group experience today. Profound, moving. One of those deeply meaningful days that don’t come around too often.It’s my turn to breathe tomorrow Good …
Reflections from Retreat With Mind Medicine Australia
Being a therapist it is important to do my own work. Part of that for me is delving into the unconscious and to do that in the most effective way, I need to remove myself from daily life and enter …
I’m Anxious, and My partner is Avoidantly Attached. Will it Ever Work?
The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
Intergenerational Attachment Styles
A short clip from last week’s Insta LIVE about Avoidant Attachment. How different styles like different amounts of relational distance and how this is transmitted intergenerationally.
7 Powerful Questions for the Avoidantly Attached
If you are avoidant and ready to challenge yourself – there are the questions to be asking. Remember that for avoidant people, you have learned NOT to reach out for support. Nobody has been there to hold you in the …