Healing is not only psychological. It is neurological. Memory reconsolidation is the process your brain uses to update old emotional learning so that your triggers lose their grip and your system begins to feel safer from the inside out. Memory …
Category: Trauma
Healing From Trauma: Choosing Yourself After Learning to Tolerate Poor Treatment
Trauma can leave you believing you have to tolerate poor treatment because losing someone feels more dangerous than staying. Healing is the slow, steady realisation that your wellbeing matters too. You begin to see that the real loss is abandoning …
9 Therapies That Harness Memory Reconsolidation to Heal Trauma
When it comes to healing trauma, real change happens when the brain can safely update its old emotional memories. This is called memory reconsolidation. Many modern therapies work by gently activating painful memories and pairing them with new, safe experiences: …
How Your Brain Rewires Old Wounds: The Science of Memory Reconsolidation
One of the most incredible things about the brain is that it has the ability to update old emotional learning. This process is called memory reconsolidation, and it’s one of the key ways therapy creates deep, lasting change. Here’s How …
Is Your Yes Really a Yes? How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Decisions
So often we think our yes or no comes from logic… but most of the time, it’s coming from your nervous system. You can have a “yes” that comes from sympathetic activation — a fight-or-flight surge — or a “yes” …
Sometimes Walking Away Is How You Choose Yourself
Sometimes walking away is the moment you choose yourself. It’s the moment you decide, deep in your body, “This is the last time I will be treated like this, by anyone.” That clarity doesn’t come from anger. It comes from …
Why Extreme Behaviours Are Often Survival Strategies
Sometimes what we see on the surface looks chaotic, destructive, or hard to understand. But when you are caught in extreme coping behaviours — severe eating disorders, compulsive sexual behaviour, or addiction — what’s underneath is almost always pain that …
You Don’t Have to Hold It All Anymore
If you grew up with unstable parents, it is common to have a part of you that was busy trying to stabilise them. That might have meant watching out for them drinking too much or trying to be happy to …
Healing Isn’t Linear — And That’s Okay
One of the biggest misunderstandings I see in my clients is the belief that healing should be linear. That once you’ve done enough therapy, read the right books, or finally understand your past, you “graduate” from your wounds and never …