When your needs have been ignored or dismissed, it can feel almost impossible to trust them. But you can gently rebuild that connection.
1. Pause and Notice
When you feel discomfort, pause and ask: “What am I needing right now?”
2. Start Small
Your body will often whisper before it shouts. Practice meeting small needs first — water, rest, a break.
3. Journal Your Needs
Write down moments when you notice a need, even if you don’t act on it. This builds awareness.
4. Validate Yourself
Remind yourself: “My needs are real. They make sense.”
5. Practice Boundaries
When safe, practice saying no, even in small ways. This is like building a muscle: practice, practice, practice.
Reconnecting with your needs is an act of self-trust. Every time you listen and respond, you strengthen that trust.
When your needs were dismissed as a child, it can feel almost impossible to recognise or trust them as an adult. You might second-guess yourself, push your needs down, or find it easier to meet everyone else’s needs before your own. Over time, this creates disconnection — a gap between what you truly need and how you respond.
The good news is that this can shift. You can gently rebuild self-trust by pausing, listening inwardly, and honouring your needs one step at a time.
Every time you notice, validate, and meet even the smallest need, you strengthen the bridge back to yourself.
Love, Jen 🪷
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