This is the moment in our wedding when the ring wouldn’t go over my knuckle.
My husband didn’t want to push too hard and hurt me. I knew it wasn’t hurting at all.
He twisted it, tried to be gentle, and I pushed and wriggled my finger a bit. Still nothing. Skinny fingers, big knuckles.
Everyone watching.
Then we both burst out laughing. It was too funny not to.
When I think about what has kept us together for 20 years, this is one of the most important things: the ability to laugh when things aren’t going to plan.
When I look over my life so far, one of the things I feel most proud of is the relationship I’ve built with my husband. We’ve been together for over half my life — 25 years — and there have been ups and downs. Challenging phases and seasons that were easy and full of joy.
A happy marriage, for us, has been about facing things together. Being on the same team most of the time. Caring deeply about one another. Knowing we have each other’s backs. I know we’re stronger together.
I’m looking forward to the next 20 years with my best friend and playmate. He’s the dad I wish I’d had for our kids, and I can’t imagine the last 20 years being anything like as good as they’ve been without him.
What do you think has mattered most in keeping your relationship strong over time?
Love, Jen 🪷
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