When your biological family caused harm instead of safety, it can take years to untangle the pain. Healing often begins when we find our logical family — the people who see us, love us, and hold us with the care …
Category: Trauma
Family Secrets: How Carrying a Secret That Wasn’t Yours Can Shape Your Childhood
Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair or a family betrayal — it can fracture their sense of safety, belonging, and play. In …
Are You a Cycle Breaker?
You feel it ends with you. Have you ever looked at your family… and felt the quiet knowing: “It ends with me.” You feel things deeply. You ask the hard questions. You see the patterns others couldn’t see — and …
Advocating for Yourself During Medical Procedures
It’s okay to: Remember: You are allowed to take the time you need to give your full consent. Your dentist, doctor, gynaecologist, and surgeon are there to support you. Yes, they are more knowledgeable than you in many areas, but …
Are You Terrified of the Dentist?
My first traumatic medical experience was at the dentist. I was having four healthy teeth removed so I could have braces fitted. This was standard practice in the UK then, but not now. I remember the taste of the injections, …
Medical Trauma
🧠 Medical trauma isn’t just about what happened, it’s about how it was experienced by the child. Even the most well-intentioned care can leave lasting emotional wounds if not met with safety, clarity, and support. If this resonates with you, …
A Trauma-Informed Perspective
When we meet someone who has experienced trauma, it helps to hold a dual lens. The first lens meets the behaviour—often the protective system that person has developed to stay safe. This might look like withdrawal, anger, or a refusal …